Have you ever gone through this? I think everyone has gone through this at some point in their lives, more than once I bet! You feel stressed, your shoulders tense up, your mood changes, you feel anxious, worn out, irritable and you cant really pin point a reason why – or maybe its obvious but you just cant see it!
We all feel that this at times, trust me I feel like this right now! Without going into too much detail, I am going to school, I have a family with 2 young children and a husband, I also own my own business making products and I am the only one who can make them, so trust me when I say I know what this feels like.
I have been feeling particularly “off” this past week and just couldn’t put my finger on it, was it the heavy school schedule with exams every week, was it the go-go-go of my two children, was it that the house needed tidying or cleaning or there was a dinner to make or breakfast to prepare – I could go on and on.
Needless to say most of us have these kinds of stressers on a fairly regular if not daily basis and maybe you think that that’s just the way it is, that’s my lot in life and I chose to be doing what I am doing – well yes and no. You can choose to do certain things and then life takes over and you might feel like you have taken on more than you can handle, or your spouse isn’t pulling their weight or you just cant seem to get just one moment of peace to yourself.
It is hard!!! But here is what I am going to do about it – Be Kind To Myself! It has taken me a long time to get to this point, a point of realisation that I need to stop being something I am not – superwomen. I cannot do everything and be everything all the time for myself and other people. We take a lot on our own shoulders as women (men too) and feel that is our “job” as the caregiver. Well its time to take a step back and know that you cannot be everything to everyone and still be there for yourself.
I am going to take those 15 minutes to myself and meditate, I’m going to take the afternoon off studying/working and go for a walk outside – to the mall – to the book store – indulge in myself a little because I deserve it.
I will not let feelings of guilt creep in and spoil my “me time” – after all I am not my thoughts. I will let those thoughts come and go and let them be as they may but I am not going to let them define the moments that I take for myself. I am not my thoughts – I have thoughts but I am not my thoughts.
Join me in promising to ourselves that we will take time to cultivate the most important relationship we have, with ourselves in order for us to be better, to bring more of ourselves to life and not just who we think we should be. After all we are human beings not human doings, we cant keep doing and doing in order to achieve what we want, we need to “be” better. So give yourself a break and take a break. Take time for yourself, to visit your conscious awareness and let your mind rest.
How has your day been today? I would love to know, perhaps you could leave me a comment in the box below and share a little of your day with me.